So as the saying goes, people come into your life for a reason or a season … it’s also said that people come into your life as a blessing or a lesson … oh boy and do those ‘lessons’ really hurt your heart, don’t they? I am one of those people who takes a while to let someone in, I tend to ‘suss them out’* for a while before opening up … partly because I have been hurt before, but we all have, and partly because being a true friend takes up a large place in my big heart – meaning I subconsciousy emotionally invest myself in people close to me. Once this happens I feel safe enough to share my space, my family, my resources, my ideas, my designs, business links and strategies and sometimes even my money. So a betrayal of such trust can be absolutely devastating. It gets one questioning every little thing, going over things in case you misinterpreted situations or conversations … and it hurts, like hell! Not to mention it takes up, again, a LOT of emotional time and brain space which can create resentment. I think we have all been down this path to some degree before. Right?
What I have learnt over time is that everyone has their own issues and journey. We are all individuals. We all make mistakes. We are all growing and are at different life stages. So I will ALWAYS give that person the benefit of the doubt and that is only fair – everyone deserves a second chance. BUT (and it’s a big ‘but’), should the ‘issues’ persist after having tried to mend what I thought was a meaningful relationship, I have learnt not to give any more precious time to an irreparable situation and to rather just walk away with a clear conscience. It’s a tough decision and I always hold out a glimmer of hope that time might do it’s thing and help to make a difference!
‘Sometimes … the first step to forgiveness is realising that the other person … is batshit crazy.’
Teehee! On a serious note, it helps to have a great support base, and it also helps to go and do something GREAT for someone else – then two people are happy and feeling good instead of one person feeling sad! Thank you to all the precious and real people in my life who support me, you keep me sane and you help me make space to keep my creativity flowing. X
*Suss out: http://bit.ly/1zXoTvQ